Don't misunderstand, Tank, all we want is for your M to succeed. Being so close to the situation, it might be difficult to be objective all the time. I think it's a very wise decision to not let her move back home right now. I know it must be tough not to, but it's all too fast and it won't work if she moves in straight from OM's place. By "fast" I am refering to her sudden decision about things. Remember when I told you that she was probably missing "home" but not necessarily the M? I stand by that and I still think something's fishy by her overnight change.
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If i am way off base here, i will listen. She just seems to have read the book on what to do and say to me!
Well, I think most women KNOW how to do the things that bring a feeling of happiness or comfort, it's just that we DON'T do it a lot of the times. No biggie........no book......we just know how. You were confusing you men not knowing what makes US happy, right?
The first step is getting a transparency plan into effect. She wants you to be with her when she breaks it off with OM? Fine, then do it.....but she needs to know that's the beginning and not the end of things. If she's sincere about wanting to work on the M, believe me, it won't take long for you to know just how much she means that or not.
Continue to protect yourself and don't buckle yet. She's got to prove herself and she needs time to work through some things....if she's going to do this right.
Remember, we are here to try to help you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
