Niecie, Treat your spouse the way you need to treat him to feel good about yourself. When you feel good about "chasing" him then do it. When you don't, then don't.
My H, early in our marriage, used to do some things which were very annoying to me in the name of "teasing." I tried hard to get him to stop. The thing that worked was when I finally told him that my feelings for him were suffering as a result of it. He tried the same things your H is doing...dismissing my lack of enjoyment of his "teasing," telling me it was just in fun, etc. I didn't argue with him. I just kept repeating the same thing in response to whatever he said..."It's damaging my feelings for you." He quit doing it.
Don't know if this approach will help in getting him to stop whatever type of "teasing" he's doing. Just thought I'd throw it out.
