You are just a riot. You are too funny and I think perhaps your ex was a little daft upstairs.
I believe most of the posts on Chrone's were from me. It does cause a huge problem but he does have the energy to other stuff so why not use that enery on me - that is the way I look at it. No - I don't go around raising cane with him over not having sex - I vent alot here! But yes I have told him I am upset that our intimacy level has gone down. I love being close to him physically. I think emotionally we are probably CLOSER that we have ever been but I feel that when a spouse if ill it can either bring them closer together or push them apart.
It has brought us closer together in many ways but the sex thing bothers me greatly. He has said it bothers him too - I think what bothers him is he knows how important sex was to our marriage for years. I know that he feels like he is letting me down and that makes him feel bad. The last thing I want to do is make my spouse feel less of a man because this is not something he chooses to have.
He likes for me to touch him and would have no problem with a quickie for him or just oral for him when he is not feeling his best but hey - I'm not chopped liver. When I touch him or have oral sex for him I get turned on like a raging inferno. And if it is just for him and none for me that sucks in a big way. I was never a "lay back and think of England girl". I do like to participate!
Yes he likes the way I dress. I have a closet full of new clothes that are very up to date. My two sons tell me "mom - you're a hot chick!" which I think is funny.
We do have a night out that we try to do every Saturday night. The problem is that he has to take the medication in the evening. It is two tranquilizers that relax the intestines. Well they traquilize all the muscles and he is falling asleep.
Generally when we do have sex it is during the middle of the day when he is wide awake. That is hard to do with 2 teenagers in the house. I have bought some very pretty lingerie recently too. And I have some Harley shirts and I ride his Harley with him. That is nice. I wrap my arms around him and he can't get away!
He was on jury duty last week and finished up early Wednesday and we went to get some things at Target and then ate a nice lunch and then went home and had great sex so I was thrilled.
He asked me what I want for Christmas - to make out a wish list. I wish for great sex of course - but what I am going to ask for is an overnight trip to this beautiful B & B that we stayed at for our 13th anniversary. It is an old Plantation house just outside of Lafayette, Louisiana set in a cane field. That sounds like a great Christmas present to me.
Tony, thanks for the post. You sound like such a nice person - you care about both sides and I appreciate that. You made me laugh too with your last line! What a visual!
