Ugh, you guys were right! I had to ask him to watch the kids for me tonight as my other babysitter had to back out and I had to go to school. He asked if he could stop by for a bit to see our daughter, as stupidly i said ok. He hung around for a bit, and it was fine but i can already feel him trying to creep back in (he asked what i was doing tonight, when I had missed a lab that I was making up, etc). I answered but was vague, not really engaging. He said an innocent comment that hurt me and I said to myself 'this is why I need to not talk to you!!!' (he mentioned something about taking our daughter somewhere I would have LIKED to go to as a family, but it was 'I should take her' not 'WE should take her'. That is what I meant by he doesn't know how hat he says and does affect me. It was innocent enough but it was another 'there is no WE doing things' anymore.
I handled it well and didn't let him know it bothered me, but it reinforces my need to see and talk to him as little as possible. So next time he asks if he can stop by I'll tell him it's not a good time for me, and suggest a better time and a place to meet sohe doesn't feel the need to linger.
Me 30 H 29 DC 9, 7, 2 M 4 years, T 6 years ILYBINILWY Bomb: 8/8/10 He doesn't want to work, I'm slowly getting there too Physically separating end of September
