From Toby's wife POV?

Unless she has been having an EA and sexting and that wonderful crap.

She HAS been trustworthy.

We all know the odds on the affair. Brutal odds.
Doesn't mean it has happened YET.

However Toby,

Your wife going there alone with the 30 ex, all of us here see the potential disaster in the making.

He didn't tell his wife.
The question I'd ask YOUR wife in your shoes is: what does that tell her?


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