The way I've always seen it advised is, "If your goal is to reconcile your marriage, then keep it civil. If you decide you're DONE, then hire the meanest, nastiest legal SOB in town, and play country hardball."

I think that's about right.

Starsky

M57 W 57; D30 D28 S24 S20 GD7 GD2 GD1 GD5m GD1m
BD 5/07; W's affair 5/07-8/07

At the end of every hard-earned day, people gotta find some reason to believe. (Bruce Springsteen)