Any newbies out there reading this - DO NOT MAKE MY MISTAKE. Shortly after W left, and before OM, there was still a chance for W and I to reconcile - but I did not follow DB. I did it half heartedly. I still pursued, chased, was needy, etc. It only pushes them away. I honestly believe that if I would've given her the space she asked for on her terms and I GAL, she would've been more open to reconciling in the beginning. When I look back at my journal it is obvious - I did not listen to the advice I was given and lost my chance. If there is already OM by the time you get to this forum, it is extremely difficult if not impossible to reconcile. GAL and move on!
There was no OM at first for my W and I lost my chance. Don't make my mistake.
I made the same mistake early on, although I think she was in it to fail to be honest. I did have 2 weeks where I put my kids to bed everynight though (at her POSH).
I guess there is always a chance, I see tank has possibly won one for the good guys, TimeHeals certainly has.
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
