Hold up. The reason she sought out another man is because she lost her attraction, at least to some extent, to Pensa. She may know intellectually that it makes more sense to work on her relationship than to have an affair, but that doesn't mean that she's ready to fully reconnect emotionally with Pensa, especially since he is expressing reservations to her by not even sleeping in the same bed.
Hey, if my wife decided that she wanted to work on our R right now my affection level would not be very high either until some trust and respect was rebuilt.
interesting to see how some people still use logic when dealing with emotion ;-)
Logic and Emotion are two different things, you can't use male logic when dealing with female emotion, you need to learn a different "logic" when dealing with female emotion and create that environment where those feelings are generated.
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...She may know intellectually that it makes more sense to work on her relationship than to have an affair, but that doesn't mean that she's ready to fully reconnect emotionally with Pensa
Would you really want a woman to stay with you and be with you if she was only in it because "intellectually" she knew it made more sense to be with you instead of the other man?
I hope not, that type of logic is easily trumped by emotion, rationalizations for the type of behavior that enables affairs and cheating are always made in an environment where a woman only stays with a man because it's the right thing to do "intellectually".
