I was GOING to break it off, but now that you've reminded me of how CONTROLLING you are, YOU JUST BLEW ANY CHANCE WE HAD AT RECONCILING!"
This is my favorite part of the script. Totally ruthless since it makes the LBS feel that there was hope (albeit briefly) and now they've blown it again!
I saw my counselor he was didn't like the ultimatum but he approved of pretty much everything else. He would of worded it differently he said. The guy drives me nuts he keeps taking the other POV even when I want a straight opinion. Once he gives me his opinion though its usually a sound one.
He weas trying to point out my wifes been like this since childhood. Do I really think shes capable of change..
Seriously guys the more I think about it the more I think the best course of action is just to go ahead with what I said I'd do and remain distant from her.
People come here and more often than not, the LBS has weak or non-existent boundaries as does their spouse. It was a disaster waiting to happen unless they BOTH grew and began to understand some pretty basic things about human behavior.
No matter what happens in your (or anybody else's) particular case, I hope you (and everbody else who needs to learn it) have learned and will learn those very basic things from this experience.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
Great idea staying distant. We all have our flaws and internal demons and I too believe people can change; however, make the improvement for you and not for someone else. Be happy with yourself and if your W does not see it then it is her lose; however, someone else will notice! W/O going into detail I personally know this for a fact
