You may want to think about why I recommend saying this to your wife:
"Wife, I have been thinking and have decided that I am OK with you going to the art show and film."
Wait and watch and listen to her response.
Then say
"I have decided that it would be a fun time and I have booked us a room."
Then really, really, really watch her and see if her facial expressions, body language changes. You will then know the truth.
A couple year ago on here the WAW was having the A with the next door neighbor and the two couples went on vacation together. It was painful to watch.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.