I do believe that the language of physical touch is the hardest language to learn if that is not your primary language(in fact probably almost impossible for many ND spouses). Another problem with these love languages is that 4 of the 5 have ALTERNATIVE sources for fullfillment. This is a way for the LD spouse to survive a marriage that does not meet THEIR needs. The love language "Physical Touch" requires the FULL participation(and cheerfully) of the ND spouse. The ND spouse does not realize the HORRIBLE bind they put the HD spouse into, they literally FORCE THE HD SPOUSE TO CHEAT ON THEM. Read the Mid Life Crisis board, the so called Mid Crisis for men is really about men that have fallen victim to the temptation to have a Fullfilling sex life with someone else, literally their wives FORCED them into the arms of another. Don't get me wrong, their is a real thing called the mid life crisis, but I think this often gets confussed with men that are just trying to meet their own needs for sexual fullfillment, which is more of a SSM issue.
Quote: I think that people in long term relationships realize that they are not going to get everything they asked for.
I have never expected to get everything, BUT I DID EXPECT THAT MY WIFE WOULD BE THE SAME PERSON AS THE ONE I MARRIED. When you exchange wedding vows, you are literally promising to be the person you are on your wedding day to your spouse, FOREVER. Now, I can make accomodation for physical problems, but just losing your desire for sex to me DOES NOT QUALIFY as "In Sickness and in Health". God DOES NOT want people to be celibate! It specifically says that in the Bible. Each spouse is responsible for the other spouses body, and being ND is basically a SIN, since you are not taking care of the other spouses body. Like wise, not meeting the needs of the other spouse is also a sin.
Anayway, back to the love languages, if your spouse continues to show love to you in the WRONG love language, can you really be satisfied with that? I don't think so, especially for HD men.
