I did it! I feel so awesome! I feel like I am stepping off the emotional roller coaster she's put me on.
Remember this? Remember how this felt? You did it once, you can do it again. Stop worrying about her money situation...she's not. Stop worrying about who to contact...she's not. Guess what, she's also probably not worried that you will continue to stand up for yourself...so do a 180 and get this feeling back. Sure she might go deeper undercover, so what, at least you won't be making it easy for her
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
Your right. I wanted her to process this and decide on some action. Obviously thats what she's doing. I knew that would happen before I checked the phone records.
Well, since she knows that you know, then she's flat-out testing you:
1. You say "I will not live in an open marriage; no contact with OM";
2. She contacts OM, and knows that you can see that she did;
3. Therefore, she knows that you MAY (if you're serious) file for divorce over this;
4. She's NOT WILLING TO GIVE UP OM, and would rather risk her marriage than give him up, so therefore:
5. She contacts an atty to protect herself.
There is absolutely no reason for her to contact any atty, even to just play "smart defense," unless she is continuing (or planning to continue) her affair.
I think it's safe to say that the "emergency crown" errand was something else now.
There IS one other viable explanation for this, and it's like what Saddam did with his WMDs. I mean, he KNEW we weren't bluffing, and yet ACTED AS IF HE HAD THEM. Megalogmaniacs (and wayards) are funny that way, lol.
So, your wife -- KNOWING you can see her phone records -- tries to "bait" you, by calling an attorney. So she wants to see if you'll get all accusatory, and "go nuts" on her, and she can say "See? THIS is why I can't be with you -- you're controlling, and jealous, and paranoid, and THIS ISN'T GOING TO WORK OUT!"
I say, don't take the bait. Completely ignore the knowledge, and proceed with whatever plan you were going to do if she continued contact with OM (which of course, she is). Only difference is, I'd politely bag out of any planned "dates" with her.
But that's just me. I'd be interested to see what the vets say.
Well, since she knows that you know, then she's flat-out testing you:
1. You say "I will not live in an open marriage; no contact with OM";
2. She contacts OM, and knows that you can see that she did;
3. Therefore, she knows that you MAY (if you're serious) file for divorce over this;
4. She's NOT WILLING TO GIVE UP OM, and would rather risk her marriage than give him up, so therefore:
5. She contacts an atty to protect herself.
There is absolutely no reason for her to contact any atty, even to just play "smart defense," unless she is continuing (or planning to continue) her affair.
I think it's safe to say that the "emergency crown" errand was something else now.
Starsky
Starsky your confusing my sitch with someone elses there was no emergeny crown in mine. but I get what your saying otherwise
P.S. (damned EDIT feature doesn't work ... grrrr....)
I meant to say that BOTH her phone calls/texts to OM in the last 24 hours, AND her call to attorney, are BOTH "bait." And she has a speech concocted much as I just wrote in the post above, only she adds to it something like " . . . and FOR YOUR INFORMATION, the reason I was texting OM last nite WAS TO TELL HIM I CAN'T SEE HIM AGAIN. I was GOING to break it off, but now that you've reminded me of how CONTROLLING you are, YOU JUST BLEW ANY CHANCE WE HAD AT RECONCILING!"
There IS one other viable explanation for this, and it's like what Saddam did with his WMDs. I mean, he KNEW we weren't bluffing, and yet ACTED AS IF HE HAD THEM. Megalogmaniacs (and wayards) are funny that way, lol.
So, your wife -- KNOWING you can see her phone records -- tries to "bait" you, by calling an attorney. So she wants to see if you'll get all accusatory, and "go nuts" on her, and she can say "See? THIS is why I can't be with you -- you're controlling, and jealous, and paranoid, and THIS ISN'T GOING TO WORK OUT!"
I say, don't take the bait. Completely ignore the knowledge, and proceed with whatever plan you were going to do if she continued contact with OM (which of course, she is). Only difference is, I'd politely bag out of any planned "dates" with her.
But that's just me. I'd be interested to see what the vets say.
