"The Five Love Languages" is a book written by Gary Chapman. It is very good at describing the 5 basic languages of love. What happens in most relationships is that the spouses give love in their primary love language. I believe thoses languages are, Physical Touch, Quality Time, Acts of Service, and 2 others. What Chapman is trying to explain is that for love to be received by your spouse, it must be in THIER love language. So if your language is Physical Touch and theirs is Quality Time. you must concentrate on giving your spouse quality time, not SEX or intimacy. Now the trick is, how to get them to give you love in your love language(and that is one heck of a challaenge). The book is WORTH the read.