I think I have become passive as part of my DBing, trying to be a nicer person and mor accomodating etc.
Over the course of our marriage I had become an angry person due to different approaches with respect to spending money. I liked to save and my wife liked to spend. Although I never yelled at her ever, I was frstrated about the spending and level of debt and always let her know that I was unhappy about things.
I am now trying again to be that nice person that she fell in love with.
