What are normal reactions when you confront a spouse with an A? What should I say? I was considering something along these lines:
I know what's going on and I won't live in an open marriage. I will come to pick up my things on this date and I'm keeping the dogs, as per our discussion in the summer.
I was just going to leave it at that. My friend, who is divorced, said to brace myself for a lot of anger and manipulation. I think that is true, last time I just tried stopping talking to him for a few days he started accusing me of sleeping with someone and said "I guess this shows you really want a divorce." Of course at that point I came running back, hence this half-assed reconciliation attempt.
