I'm sure, in a way, you're glad to be getting this over with and moving on. You are one step closer to getting your life back and leaving the drama behind. Good for you!
I know what you mean about the W being bitchy when you did things that she wanted. I know what R2C means, too.
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My understanding is there is a deeper level to the onion. The "bitching" comes from the subconscious based on the disconnect in the relationship. Your timing was off on doing the things she complained about and was viewed as pursuing.
When we get the bomb, it serves as a wake up call. By the time we wake up, it may very well be too late. The changes we make are for the better. As you know, my W doesn't want my help, either. She would rather stress herself out and be able to say she can do it ALL than ask for help from me. I have always helped with the kids and the house. She is miserable here at home. Like Coach said, I'm sure she feels trapped. That is her choice and it was your W's choice. Don't beat yourself up too much.
Keep up the good work. Your PMA shows in your posts. I have no doubt that you will soon prosper and be better than ever. Carry on!!
