You guys are too damn funny and an earlier time I would have taken offense.. but... lmao...
Gucci, You have a great point. I would like to point out she didnt go on Tuesday night either when she knew he goes.. and then she didnt go last night due to a cracked crown. She is well aware of my boundry and said last night she will respect it. I am watching... one of her solutions is to go to TKD on nights when he is not in the same class. She knows I will not accept them being in the same class period. No Contact means that.. and she has that loud and clear.. She knows it is a deal breaker.
I am proceeding with caution and watching.
Date tonight.. dinner. More watching.
M:42 W:39 S:9 M:20 T:25 D-bomb: 30 Sep 10 Wife changed her mind: 31 Oct 10 Working on it: 31 Oct 10
Cuz my XW never said she was going somewhere and went somewhere else to meet OM. Like catching them together in a parking lot. Never. "insert bleeding sarcasm here"
Too early to tell. The WS doesn't usually get over the OM this fast. Be wise.
I tried telling this to ATU but he didn't listen, I hope he's right and I'm wrong but this tends to be the case most of the time. Takes a while to recover from the love bug ;-)
I just told the same thing to Tank, basically. Like most, he LEAPED at the first offer, intead of doing the "I'm not sure HOW I feel about this anymore ... I need some time to think about it" thing.
You would rather have Pen, take her back, trust her completely and she doesn't have to earn it back? You don't think that is a disaster waiting to happen?
I still believe
Originally Posted By: Steve McQueen
as of september 30th you were separated, go out, start acting single. do you a world of good.
nothing here has convinced me to not say it again.
Originally Posted By: Jack_Three_Beans
You've been here awhile, what happens when the spouse comes back
And I have been around the block, several times, and what happens when a spouse gets caught.
1st thing. they say, we need to cool it my husband knows and I can't lose my kids over this. or I am not losing my career over this right now. or I have been through this with my first wife take some time to figure out what you want to do...
then. someone is driving by someone elses house and calling and hanging up and sending up smoke signals
and alot depends on who did the breaking up and what the other person feelings are for getting put on hold or dumped.
yea, I hope this is not the case either. I am watching.. I was pretty quick to suspect the EA and got the records to prove it happened. Then I confronted. Then the crazy crap the last few weeks and her turnaround on Halloween, after I went out with my friend, told her to get out and I was moving on.. she came to me and told me she doesnt want a divorce and now is trying to work it out.. although her committment affection level is lower than I would like, she says she needs time to ease into it.. I am not sure if that is normal or if she is holding back because she feels loss from the EA...
it bends the mind.
M:42 W:39 S:9 M:20 T:25 D-bomb: 30 Sep 10 Wife changed her mind: 31 Oct 10 Working on it: 31 Oct 10
