I will literally do ANYTHING if it will help meet her needs. I want her to be unbelieveable happy with me. If I have to become a better conversationalist, I will do that. What ever it takes. The problem is trying to get her to DESIRE me. I will have to make changes in me to meet her needs, and they won't be easy to do OR to maintain. I need some of MY needs to be met. My wife has a MILLION miles to go in this regard(and she used to meet my needs). Can I enjoy the things my wife does for me, yes. Anything she does for me would be appreciated. Can I go the rest of my life in a SSM. Possible, but it IS h#ll. THIS IS NOT THE WAY GOD INTENDED, and IS ACTUALLY A SIN ON BOTH SPOUSES. I think this is why I have seen some HD men seeking advice on drugs that will KILL their sex drives. Then they might actually be able to survive on their WIFES needs alone, but man that is not a good option. Husbands and wives are not meant to be roomates, they are meant to be lovers.
Can a man survive in marriage is his wife does not desire him. No! Being with a non-sexual women is incredibley lonely! I go to bed every night hoping that she will get in bed and just roll over and touch me. Instead, she gets in bed and turns her back to me an goes to sleep. Every person needs to be desired. Heck the LD spouse gets desired, because they get love in the ways that THEY want. To be undesired is to be a FAILURE. THe way I see it, I will work on my marriage, try to meet her needs, keep my emotions in check, raise my kids until they are older, like teenage, and then I will probably have to leave my wife and seek someone that can love me.
P.S. THe worst thing about my situation is that I have tried to explain the situation to my wife and my wife dismisses my aurguments. She truley does not understand the need for sex and intimacy with me. Of course she is just pissed at me for not meeting some of her needs that I don't seem to understand.
