Isn't there a place in the DR book that talks about causing a crises? Why don't you look that up and see what would be a crises.

DBing is not becoming a doormat. Have you always been passive in your MR?

How are you different from the way you were when she fell in love with you?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!