LOL. the mumbling and the drool wouldn't be enough to convince you left behinds?
I could see maybe driving across country in a diaper to kill your boyfriends old lady happening, but subjecting yourself to a root canal as a cover to drive past taekwondo and see if "he" is there is ridiculous accusation.
Oh, surely. Why there's never been a cheating spouse who was newly-confronted by their spouse, and who promised to end their addiction of contact, who suddenly had to "run to the store" or "run an errand" or anything, no siree . . .
And not sure anyone made the accusation, which IS ridiculous, that you suggested Steve.
Emergency repairs to a Crown...does not a root canal make. The assumption here is that she did indeed come home drooling, something Pen never mentioned.
You would rather have Pen, take her back, trust her completely and she doesn't have to earn it back? You don't think that is a disaster waiting to happen?
You've been here awhile, what happens when the spouse comes back and isn't willing to rebuild trust?
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
It wasn't about her going to the dentist as a cover to see the OM...
The true insight here is this:
She did NOT go to TKD...
Which may be evidence that she doesn't care so much about going to TKD when the OM isn't there. You were believing she didn't go because of your NC rule.. You got fooled. She probably didn't go because the OM wasn't going to be there. She could then use that as her excuse that she was doing what YOU wanted.
Her NOT going points more to evidence that she isn't so motivated about TKD unless the OM is there.. She then used her not going as a tool to get Pens to think that she is serious about reconciling...
Too early to tell. The WS doesn't usually get over the OM this fast. Be wise.
