Glad you are feeling okay and not much morning sickness! That's such a blessing.
Too funny about your H. Those spontaneous affections are so nice. You are both so lucky that you found yourselves and found yourselves back together.
Glad you are able to give some insight to your BFF. One thing I always hope from my trauma is to have the patience and wisdom to be able to help someone else.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Thaks Kat.. lovely, if a little boring!! We've been so paranoid about the m word (banned in our house) that he wont let me do a think, so I've been sitting about all day for the past 9 weeks since the IUI.. H promises I can do stuff and we will go home for a weekend visit once we get past the 12 week scan.
Although its quite nice that he is doing all the shopping and housework and laundry.. he even enjoys it! Crazy man.
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
We go for our "12 week" scan when they tell yuo if the baby is ok or not today (although we are having it early at 11 weeks) and I am very nervous !!
I've had some conversations with H.. more things come out that I didnt know. I didnt want to push it in the early days of our reconciliation and was just so happy to have him back, I wanted to look forwards and mend things, not pick over the past. Now that we are married, settled and expecting, I find I have more probing questions.
His best friend inadvertantly posted a pic of him on Facebook with .. Helen in the background!!!! H was very upset about it and immediately emailed the guy to take it down (it was a genuine oversight). We are visiting this BMF Sunday, H finally told me last night that BMF said that I was better suited to him than Helen ever was. I was glad to hear this as I was concerned BMF had preferred Helen! Silly me, just pride hey.
I asked him how he felt in that gap between ending it with Helen and asking me back.. he said he felt very depressed and sad and unhappy. I said Why!? He said because he was thinking about how stupid he had been. "Looking back what I did was ridiculous, it was a combination of a series of bad decisions, wrong turns going down tunnels in my mind, burying my head in the sand and just basically, very bad decision making." He says he feels stupid, even now for how he treated me.
He also said he was very worried that I wouldnt take him back, which frankly I said was ridiculous, I was practically laid flat on a platter for him the whole 18 months obviously waiting for him to take me back. He said he wasnt sure and was afraid I wouldnt! So just goes to show, that either a) men are stupid and unobservant or b) I did very good GALing/DBing and had him on his toes
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Hi Kat, thanks for following. Unfortunately, my Jupiter luck seems to have run out.
The scan showed the baby was growing well and healthy, except for a build up of fluid behind the neck indicating a chromosomal problem perhaps. Together with my blood result, they have given us a 1 in 3 chance of Down's Syndrome
We have been in terrible shock and upset and trying to work out what to do for the best. They want me to have a CVS test to snip a bit of the placenta and test it, this Wednesday, which carries a slight risk of miscarriage. And of course we have a 2 in 3 chance the baby is ok, but its hard to focus on that and get our hopes up. If not Down's, it could be some other chromosomal problem, not compatible with life, or a serious heart defect.
If I am brave enough to have the test, we get the result Monday.
H has been in bits, crying on and off for a day or so after the test, but he's doing better now. He was so excited to be a dad, I feel just awful for him. After what I have been through the past few years, maybe I am a little stronger although obviously upset too.
Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
