Violin - yes, thanks for the guy's perspective. That's what I thought too, but since it has been so very long since I dated, I wasn't really sure if I was using some old-fashioned rule. Frankly, I thought he wasn't that into me after he didn't contact me over the Halloween weekend - then he came back so interested early this week.
OT - you're right, I do have to be on the lookout for my tendency to fall for unavailable guys. That has nothing to do with my ex, actually, and everything to do with losing my dad when I was young. But it IS there.
That being said - I don't think that's operating here with the 34 year old. I know he'd just be a fling - I'm just at the point where I would REALLY like a fun date and that little kissing session was so nice, I'm looking forward to repeating it! Plus he seemed like a NON-depressed guy, I was hoping to break my pattern of dating the depressed guys.
As for the other guys - the Northern California guy, I'm getting over him, really I am. The East Coast guy? He's all about pursuing me, not vice versa. I'm enjoying all the words of affirmation and the snappy dialogue when we talk on the phone, but I don't expect he will ever materialize in my orbit - practical issues are too great and his never-married history and depression history are big red flags. But it is reminding me what it looks like when a guy is really interested in pursuing you.
The 44 year old LA guy could be good but he's not much of a pursuer either, he'd have to show me more initiative.
So far, what I have is two guys who actually are pursuing me in the way I would like (and am trying to hold out for) - one is 3,000 miles away, and one if half my age. LOl.
GAL is not a problem - I'm actually WAY too busy right now. I guess that was part of why I wanted this 34 year old to hurry up and call - my weekend is so busy, I probably won't be able to fit him in now.
Ah, but you're all correct - if he was that into me, after the comment I made, he should be contacting me. If not - he's got other irons in the fire, or he's having second thoughts about the age difference, or he's just not that into me!
I suppose this means I need to go to the party tonight that I was thinking about skipping (it's a very very long drive and I'm usually wiped out at the end of my work week -but it was a very fun party last time.)
