I have read about the bottomless pit of need issue. My wife feels I am clingy. The problem is that I want to cuddle and touch with her and she does not want any. I am a physical touch person. ALL love must be given to me in the form of touching. My wife HATES to touch me, so all touching in our relationship is from me to her, so in effect, I am clingy and become the bottomless pit of need. But what to do? I now find myself doing everything in my power to stop from trying to touch her, co I am not so clingy. The bottomless pit of need is a man who is DIEING for effection from their wives and very likely is not getting enough. It is a vicious circle. I don't know the answer. It's like Michelle says in SSM, many women that lose sexual desire also lose the desire for ALL intimacy and touching. Dr. Laura says that women like this CAN NOT be fixed adn tells the husbands they will probably have to divorce if they want affection. I am still hoping to somehow restore my wifes desire for intimacy and sex, but I really have my doubts that it is possible. It seems so much luck of the draw, men that marry HD wives are probably going to have great marraiges, men that marry LD women are going to be faced with incredible hardship, and VERY LIKELY divorce, only because LD women speak a different love language that HD men truely can not understand (and therefore the love disappears).
Like Dr. Laura says on the radio, having a great relationship with a man is easy, just Feed Him, Sex Him, and NEVER, NEVER, NEVER tell him you do not desire him. THAT'S IT. MEN ARE SIMPLE. It's us guys that have to fix EVERY FREAKIN' thing under the sun in order to have a happy relationship that have the tough time.
