Carlotta, Thanks for that response. I surely do wish things had turned out differently in your situation.
You wrote that you wouldn't find anyone sexy that you knew really well. My question is: Why not? I don't understand this, I'm not trying to beat a dead horse! I understand that things are hotter in the beginning of a new relationship; I think that both HD and LD people would agree on this. Didn't you find things about your XH beautiful and alluring, even though they were familiar and not new?
