I have read a lot of posts that talk about setting healthy boundaries. I have read a few out of interest because at the moment they were not applicable to my sitch. I would suggest scanning the posts and reading up on healthy boundaries. I think the posters that write the most about boundaries are: Time to let go, Coach, sandi2 and I think robx.
I am type "A" personality so I struggle between the fine line of being assertive, which is good to aggressive, which is not so good...unless I am back on the football field then aggresiveness wins out.
I have read your sitch from day one and from what I gather you would rather give up your rights in order to please someone than stand up for yourself and by doing so have confrontation. Here in the States we call that being a doormat...pookie one of the poster can attest to that, which is his subtitle.
NCU there is nothing wrong in being assertive and standing up for yourself. Set-up those healthy boundaries in your M and in the classroom and you will define your expectations for others: Do you want to continue to live in LIMBO with an H that is free to do what he wants? Do you want your H to come to your home anytime of the day and have free reign in your house? Do you want time to yourself so that you can have a life?
NCU, you have to start taking action and live a life that makes you happy and not sacrificing your life to make your H happy. As long as you stay passive he will take advantage of you (cake eating) and leave you in LIMBO. How are you doing with GAL activities?
