Well, since she knows that you know, then she's flat-out testing you:

1. You say "I will not live in an open marriage; no contact with OM";

2. She contacts OM, and knows that you can see that she did;

3. ?????

Ball's in your court, dude!

Starsky

M57 W 57; D30 D28 S24 S20 GD7 GD2 GD1 GD5m GD1m
BD 5/07; W's affair 5/07-8/07

At the end of every hard-earned day, people gotta find some reason to believe. (Bruce Springsteen)