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[awest1217]

Flowmom, I think you hit it on the head. It is hard to go from DBing and focusing on our spouses and to change the focus from others to ourselves.

NM - Just do what feels right. I know there are many on this site who swear by going with your gut instinct. I know whenever something happened, I always knew, whether it was gut instinct or me picking up on his vibes, I don't know, but if I would have listened to that it would have saved me a lot of heart ache. Really listen to your gut and don't be worried about just saying I am not interested, just like you want guys to do to you. Don't give specifics, but say thank you and it was nice talking, but I am not interested.

Hope you have a great weekend!