Now let her stew for a bit I guess and get my lawyer geared up.
From this point on....until a R, she needs to wonder what you are up to. Out late with a friend? You don't owe her details. Talking on the phone in very soft tones or going to the other room to talk in private? She doesn't need to know details. Do you have a lawyer? Hummmm, perhaps.Be mysterious, but not rediculas.... Be cool.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Now let her stew for a bit I guess and get my lawyer geared up.
From this point on....until a R, she needs to wonder what you are up to. Out late with a friend? You don't owe her details. Talking on the phone in very soft tones or going to the other room to talk in private? She doesn't need to know details. Do you have a lawyer? Hummmm, perhaps.Be mysterious, but not rediculas.... Be cool.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
- Coach the note was exactly what you wrote. - The boundary is she needs to cease communication with him - She texted him a couple of times. Once shortly after I left, then once again at 930pm. He didn't reply yet. - She also called her mother and there was some back and forth calling there. I know her mom is extremely concerned and whats us to resolve this. Her moms good peoples and has always wondered how I was ok with the behavior.
She just dropped me off to work. Shes all dolled up for a meeting with our sons principle to ask for a full grant. I imagine she'll be looking for a job to but who knows.
She was very upbeat in the car. She tried to engage me in some small talk a couple of times. I replied but didn't offer any follow up to any of it and was disinterested in talking to her.
We'll see what the day brings. I feel pretty good.
From what I've read (here and elsewhere), expect her to swing wildly all over the map over the next few days, Scott. From super-duper-nice, to venom-spew, and back again. She may also try to "tag" you with sex.
Maintain your boundary.
Does she know that you can see that she's texting OM?
OK well she's texting him already this morning. So I just ignore this right and of course proceed with the actions I said I would.
What should I expect???
Coach you said she's going to test me. I thin I see everyones point. I've laid down to her for so long her learned behavior is to keep pushing to see if I break, ( like with the budget ).
Be cool.