KEM, I think that is a common thing for a WAW to say. If she felt like she was always the one working at the R in order to have a good M while you were not, then after she is "done" and feels that there is no hope in things ever changing and she leaves the M......THEN you decide to change! Of course she's mad!
It takes a lot for most women to reach the point of giving up on the man she fell in love with. She wonders why you could not have made these changes when it meant the world to her and while she was working so hard at the R. Of course she's mad!
She's thinking that it took "this" to finally get your eyes open and care enough. Of course she mad!
This is true, some of the critisims I am getting from my wife are absolutely correct, but no one is anywhere near perfect, her included.
At the moment she has rewritten history to blame me for everything, it's my fault even if it's raining outside. There is nothing good, or never has been anything good about me.
Is it not possible that some or even half of the blame might lay with her?