W's other sis called me to complain to me that I needed to let go of W sooner and that I wasn't the perfect husband. I know I wasn't, but damnit I was changing for that past year and changed even more after W left.
Her sis also said that W had been confiding in her family for about two years, and they encouraged her to stick it out. But W wasn't saying anything to me. W told me the other day that I should've been able to know. I'm not a mindreader. Sis-n-law told me she believes OM is way of showing me W is in control and that we are over. Doesn't make it right.
Lil - Glad global warming is your fault and not mine, they can't pin that one on me. LOL.
Any newbies out there reading this - DO NOT MAKE MY MISTAKE. Shortly after W left, and before OM, there was still a chance for W and I to reconcile - but I did not follow DB. I did it half heartedly. I still pursued, chased, was needy, etc. It only pushes them away. I honestly believe that if I would've given her the space she asked for on her terms and I GAL, she would've been more open to reconciling in the beginning. When I look back at my journal it is obvious - I did not listen to the advice I was given and lost my chance. If there is already OM by the time you get to this forum, it is extremely difficult if not impossible to reconcile. GAL and move on!
There was no OM at first for my W and I lost my chance. Don't make my mistake.
