He has gone a bit quiet now, digesting things. I found out about an OW, but no details. This was the thing that made me step up and speak up, and ask which direction I should be taking in my life, as I still love him, and understand what he's going through, but also feel stuck and need to move forward with my life in some way. I understood from your posts that the thought of giving your wife hope put you off, so I tried to come across as I dont expect him to jump headfirst back into the marriage - or even for it to work out, but that we could talk and open up, and see where that gets us. Maybe dating eventually, but not back into the marriage.
i dont know if any of this helped or made it worse yet, but I was tired and exhasuted and couldnt sit anymore....especially since he was spending more time with me.
