Happy, he is opening up and telling me things that are almost exactly the things you complained about. Control being the thing that he is most afraid of. He never spoke about anything that made him unhappy in our marriage - never once complained about the things that made him unhappy, and i did the same but to a lesser extent. He has now said that he is 50% of the problem, wheras before it was all my fault. I never tried to control him, but I can understand how he could have ended up feeling that way, by never telling me that he was interpreting things wrong....I have never been a fishwife, everybody used to say I was the most patient understanding person ever. but he didnt want to hurt me, so just stayed quiet, and the resentment built. Mine did too for things I never said.
BUT, he is still at the point where he's terrified of being controlled again - and falling 'back under my spell' , so he's still recovering, and working through things. Dont know if he'll get over it, but reading your pasts give me hope and understandiing
