Irish, Cas, MHL, and Mila, thanks for your feedback and encouragement!

IB, this experience teaches us to appreciate the small victories. So nice of you to offer encouragement. This is a long road.

Cas, I think your observations are spot on. They really resonated with me. It's eery how our experiences seem similar even though they are half a world apart. I wonder whether XH has noticed a difference in my attitude over the past month? I haven't been lingering after TT, I reserve the table at a time to fit MY schedule and XH has always accommodated my schedule, and I haven't been initiating hugs the way that I used to. XH initiated the hug last night. I sense a tiny shift in XH's attitude..........not sure whether I'm correct. I've taken XH off the pedestal he was on in my mind and it feels good. That has been VERY healing for me. For that reason I'm grateful for last week's convo.

Originally Posted By: missherlove
Moving forward, you need to view XH as a "guy" you are wanting to go out with......that is it.

MHL, this ^^^^^^^^^^ has been a paradigm shift for me. I find this to be a very helpful way to think about XH at this point, and for this mental image I THANK YOU VERY MUCH!!!!

Originally Posted By: missherlove
do not focus on this too much........tell us what GAG is doing for herself too!!!

Working a few extra days in the near future to make extra cash to splurge on myself. Planning to do some special treatments at the dermatologist's office for moi.......and toying with the idea of doing some type of medical mission trip if I can afford it. I've wanted to go to Africa for years, but can't afford the time away from work right now.....but there are probably places closer.......just an idea at this point.

Mila, you hit the nail on the head!

Originally Posted By: Mila
trying to remember what was it like to date LOL....mysterious, little flirty, not too available LOL....you know


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