I would also say that it's a way of deflecting blame back onto you. "Why didn't YOU listen" "Why didn't YOU change?"
You probably had issues about her but was willing to accept them as how she was. Sometimes the WAS makes it seem as if they were perfect and you were the ones with the issues.
There are also times when maybe they did tell you but they didn't communicate it correctly. There were things my W told me bothered her, but of course she didn't tell me about them until after she wanted a D.
They don't like to take responsibility.
That is the truth, according to my wife, every issue from our marriage, the Sunday paper was wet, and the global warming were issues with me. She had done everything right our whole marriage.
I am the entire reason she needed a new boyfriend, nothing to do with.
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
