I would also say that it's a way of deflecting blame back onto you. "Why didn't YOU listen" "Why didn't YOU change?"

You probably had issues about her but was willing to accept them as how she was. Sometimes the WAS makes it seem as if they were perfect and you were the ones with the issues.

There are also times when maybe they did tell you but they didn't communicate it correctly. There were things my W told me bothered her, but of course she didn't tell me about them until after she wanted a D.

They don't like to take responsibility.

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER