In all seriousness though. For the first time, I am feeling some clarity. Have not talked to H today. I want to take a few days and plan this out, make sure I'm not letting my emotions rule me. Fear is an emotion, right.
So, what is the best way to proceed to protect myself? Right now, I have the dogs. A few months ago he told me I could have both dogs, but that was one of the reasons he wanted to work on M, because when I went to take both dogs he realized he would really miss them. I really want to keep both of them, and I feel justified doing so. I have a feeling that things will get ugly when I say that I know about this A and refuse to talk to him any longer. I am in a position now I can keep the dogs, but all of my things are still in the U.S. I mean EVERYTHING except a few suitcases. I have all my important paperwork down there, things that have sentimental value etc. I am really worried if I don't concede to him seeing or having the dogs he will throw my things away, or not allow me access to them. How can I best protect myself? Financially, we are not intertwined. I have my separate bank account and have been saving left and right in case this was the route I was going to take. In my 'starting over' account, I have $3,000. I'm living with my parents right now, but that's a temporary solution. So, how do I tell him this while keeping the dogs, and protecting my things? Should I maybe just go down there when I know he's at school and clear things out? Is there anything legal I can do? My name is on the lease, so I know I can gain access to the condo through the landlord.
