I still need to read "why they run" and go through all the resource threads. And PEI's treads now. I'm still processing a lot too, so no questions yet.
Going through all this stuff though, especially about MLC and childhood trauma got me thinking. Also, my IC was commenting on how well I was doing at keeping to my plan and doing what works. It got me thinking, and I realized that I have spent the last three years studdying up to become a foster parent. This is really the same thing.
I have read, and read, and read about things like interpreting emotions in nonverbal children, attachment disorders, creating an emotionally safe environment, how long it can take for a hurt child to attach to a safe caregiver (think years, not days or even months), and how children redirect anger to new caregivers.
Then there is how kids rework their grief at each developmental phase because they can now understand and process the same information in a new way.
Or... how about how a child will lash out the most with the people they feel safe with. Partly to test how safe you REALY are, but also because they do feel safe with you.
I have also read and read and read about how traditional parenting doesn't work for these kids and can even make the problems worse. I researched what style of parenting does work too.
MLC it starting to feel a lot like the same subject.
Good news is that DBing very similar to what I have been learning the last few years. Just that my "kid" is a lot older and bigger than I planned. Oh, yea, and my husband isn't helping me with this "kid" like I thought he would.
Think I may go pull out my books on dealing with traumatized children again...
