OM actually sent me a message on facebook out of the blue, asking if he could talk to me/ He said he had a few things to say to me and a few things he wanted to "get out on the table" for me to respond to.
He asked that I not tell anyone what was said.
I deleted the message and told my wife this happened.
To be honest, if she woulda flipped out and demand I not talk to him, that woulda been a big red flag for me... As in, "what is he going to say that you dont want me to hear, hm? Any lies you've told me about to get busted by your rebound boyfriend?"
Anyways, she told me she was sorry I had to deal with that, but told me maybe I should hear him out.
I'm not going to, of course, but the fact that she said that told me maybe she has nothing to hide anymore.
Anyways, yeah, things are tough. This week especially. I planned this awesome weekend for us and she basically said she could only see me one night.
She has other plans, and also due to her working and running around all day she never gets any time to herself.
So, I'm upset.
I don't really see any progress being made here... We have our talks like the one i discussed in my previous post, but other than that we basically just text and chit chat during the day, and go on one or two "dates" on the weekends.
She seems perfectly happy with this arrangement... But, I'm getting kind of tired of it.
I'm not flipping out about it... I mean, this is all still pretty new, but am I just being irrational about this?
I've talked to her about how I want to spend more time together... She makes excuses now about what a pain in the azz it is to take the train out to see me... Shes never complained about that before...
I told her I feel like she's pulling away from me, and if somethings going on we should talk...
She just says "I'm not pulling away" and thats that.
Ok then...
I'm not gonna bring this stuff up again.
Ok, so seriously... Am I just reacting and pushing hard and not giving this enough time?
I feel like thats probably the case, but I also don't want to ignore any red flags just because its only been a few months.
For the record, outside of the things I mentioned here, shes been great. She still seems genuine about us working this out... It just seems like shes on a much slower plan than I am, and we need to be on the same plan here.
