surprise surprise, there's an A

[Starsky309]

I don't dismiss the advice.

I guess I read your thread diffrently then. Usually when the patience-of-Job GREEK gives up, it's safe to assume you're dismissing advice.

Starsky

[asher]

I am not disagreeing with the advice, or dismissing it. I know it's the right thing to do. I am just terrified, as I'm sure a lot of other people are in this situation.

[Serenity13]

Ash~

(me) who sacrificed everything for him, got him to where he is now, supported him, comforted him

The quicker you learn this isn't about you, the better off you will be.

(((Hugs)))

[Starsky309]

I am not disagreeing with the advice, or dismissing it. I know it's the right thing to do. I am just terrified, as I'm sure a lot of other people are in this situation.

Yep -- totally understand. However, fear is an EMOTION, and it's not what you should base your decisions on.

There is a powerful hint in how Greek has approached, responded, and then succinctly left you here.

Starsky

[asher]

Ok, say that I do confront him about A.
I need to keep my emotions in check.
I need to just say that I know, offer no other explanation.
Then I need to cut off contact, but how to get the rest of my stuff from our place?

Or, the evil me says to ride it out for the next two years, wait till he's making great money, keep collecting intel and then take him for some big alimony :-)

[Starsky309]

Or, the evil me says to ride it out for the next two years, wait till he's making great money, keep collecting intel and then take him for some big alimony :-)

Good luck.

Starsky

[Frank V]

That's quite the gamble... And what makes you think he won't take you for some big-time alimony since you are giving him two years to prepare a full exit?

The law isn't as cut and dry as exploiter and exploited.. I wish it was...

It's a gamble...

[Greek]

Ok, say that I do confront him about A.
I need to keep my emotions in check.
I need to just say that I know, offer no other explanation.
Then I need to cut off contact, but how to get the rest of my stuff from our place?

Or, the evil me says to ride it out for the next two years, wait till he's making great money, keep collecting intel and then take him for some big alimony :-)

Why would you sell yourself that way?
Greek

[TimeHeals]

Why would you sell yourself that way?
Greek

Do you think we have a mercenary (gold digger) in the making here?

Hey, why not? We have men who didn't believe in having an affair who started dating other women while still married because their wife had an affair.

Don't go over to the darkside !

[Greek]

TH ~
It's a sort of prostitution, and certainly beneath Asher I would think.
Greek