Thought about starting a thread on the infidelity forum, but figured I'd stick to one thread. Still need the therapy.
Don't know that I could ever take W back if she ever changed her mind, but then I look at D3 and think I could. I don't hold out hope for anything b/c of OM.
Anybody have experience with reconciliation after infidelity?
I still refuse to have contact with W and that is a good thing. Although, bro-in-law's wife contacted me and so did sis-in-law. Both said they just found out and think W is wrong, but don't feel its their place to say anything. Big frickin deal.
You know, I've got great friends, great family, great home and career and absolutely wonderful D3. But everytime I look at D3 I can't help think about how different her future will be now and it tears me up inside. She is such a smart and caring little girl. She sees what is going on now and she cries a lot. It breaks my heart.
I'm not ready to move on or look for anyone else. Others may feel differently, but I'm not divorced yet and will still honor my vows. I owe that to my daughter.
You know, I think the same way, I look at my boys and I know I would attemp reconsiliation. The kids don't deserve this, I believe anything can be worked out, and all options need exhausted when kids this age are involved.
I am right there with you honoring your vows also, my kids need one stable parent, and that'll be me.
I copied these posts from here about that, and look at them often......
people with high integrity don't cheat, and they don't start dating until the divorce is final.
I am talking about your vows.
What do they mean to you? What does YOUR commitment mean?
Did you say on your wedding day:
"I will love and honor you all the days of my life...
Unless you get scared and lose your way.
Then I won't"
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
