Violin - That's funny, all those cougars out there. And here I am an unwilling one!
I didn't contact the 27 year old - he contacted me. And I wouldn't have chatted with him except he was so funny and charming - and persistent.
The 34 year old looked at my profile first, and had an entertaining screen name, so I checked out his profile. It was so clever that I DID write to him, but only to say his profile was clever and to wish him luck - and too bad he wasn't 10 or 20 years older.
He wrote back saying if I changed my mind..... and I said if I ever took that rocket ship into outer space where I come back 1 year older to his twenty, I would look him up.
That was it for several weeks until he came back online looking for me and chatted me up. By that time I decided what the hell, couldn't hurt to just meet him for a drink?
I've had the same experience... Unexpectedly found out my online chess partner was 32 -- Me 53, when it took a turn for the romantic. He doesn't care ... But I kind of do. Love the sex!
"Date them all.. especially the one you find most attractive. After all folks always want what they feel they can't have. "
Oh GYpsy - I don't think I can do that! Because the one I find MOST attractive, witty, intelligent and funny - is - um - 27 years old! To my 54! That's only 2 years older than my son. I just CAN'T go there.
However, he makes the 34 year old look positively adult by comparison, so I WILL go out with him again.
I had a "fling" with a 27-year old, and I am 45. He was funny, smart, easy to talk to, and very easy on the eyes. I knew it wouldn't last because he lived in another state and had never been married. In the end I told him to go back to his home and find a woman to marry and have babies with, cuz that wasn't going to be me! It was fun while it lasted and it gave my self-confidence an amazing boost.....so go with your gut and enjoy the experience. You can call the shots!
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
But may I ask - in retrospect, what do you think was his attraction to you?
Honestly, I wondered the same thing. I never actually told him how old I was, so maybe he thought I was younger. But even if I was 10 years younger that would have been 8 years older than him! LOL It all started with conversation and he was so easy to talk to and I felt comfortable around him. He had spent time in the military, in the middle-east, and he seemed older than his years. Maybe he was attracted to me rather than someone his own age because there was no drama, no neediness. It was fun and easy-going with no long-term expectations. I knew that the job he was working on would be over and he would go back home, and I would say goodbye, don't call, cuz I wasn't going to do long-distance with a man too young for me anyway! But there were times I worried that others would look at us and wonder if I was his mother.....weird!!! And I certainly could not have introduced him to my kids!!! Can't imagine the response from my 23-year old daughter. LOL
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
Well, I could see a 45 year old looking 35, and a guy with those experiences thinking a 35 year old is ok.
But at 54, I'm pretty sure I could be mistaken for a 27 year old's mom. I may still be cute but I do have crows feet and cellulite and have to see my hair stylist every 2 weeks to cover my prematurely gray hair.
And even the 34 year old would be too young to introduce to my kids. Or my mom. And I sure wouldn't want to meet his parents!
