He has shown change in the past month which is confusing because he seems to be trying after he says he is done. I'm just not sure that he will ever give up that friendship. Occasionally he decides that he is done with her and stops hanging out with her, but then she manages to creep back in and it starts all over again. Its a vicious cycle that i'm just not sure how to stop. Maybe he goes to her when he thinks things arent going well here, I dont know. He seems confused about what he wants but wont really communicate, just says the conversations go around in circles and we get nowhere.
Although i did get the divorce papers, I dont really want it to be final (hence me being here). I think I picked them up more so for his reaction, to see if he was really done like he says and as I figured he seemed upset, said I was being rediculous and I should hold off on filing paper work. Its like he wants the marriage but wants his freedom too. I think its just time for me to stop conversing with him for a while to show him Im serious. Its going to be hard and hurt like hell and he is going to be madddd that Im not giving in, but its what I have to do. Maybe it will end in divorce, or maybe he will see that hes being completely selfish and man up to his responsiblites. I will not let him ack until she is completely out of the picture, if hes not willing to do that then I will file.
Me: 30/ H: 34 DD: 7 / DD: 4 Together 16 years, Married 10 He Moved Out: July 2009 / Came Home: January 2010 Left Again: October 2010
