..because she needs it to justify what she wanted... it makes it better for her/eases the blow in a way/the reality, etc. [/quote]

I agree, this is the case in almost every sitch IMHO

M - 42
W - 41
Married 9 years July 24, 2010
WAW moved out 8-9-10
2nd Marriage for Both
S 2
SS 13 from W first Marriage