I feel like there is this manual to do things the right way but this runs into that and vice versa. I feel like in a lot of the situations I might know what to do but I second guess myself because of this rule or that rule
Don't over analyze this. Give it some time. You got your W to talk about OM, you got her to talk about herself.
Stick to the basic pronciples. No pushing M/R talk. Listen to her what she is telling you. If unsure and put on a spot say, I don't know how I feel about this, or I have to think about that.
Agree when appropriate, don't argue or try to change her mind. Give her what she wants.