Sandi, she's always been quiet and reserved except with me and maybe her dad. Her mom left a long time ago and is even now a very small part of her life. She was raised by her dad and in a lot of ways tends to be closed off like a guy. When u say LL I assume you mean love language. Don't some of those principals go against some of the principals here? That's what's getting me in all this. I feel like there is this manual to do things the right way but this runs into that and vice versa. I feel like in a lot of the situations I might know what to do but I second guess myself because of this rule or that rule