Should I stay, or should I go now?

[Starsky309]

Time to show myself (and him) that I am capable of taking care of myself.

I agree. What sort of "180" can you to do demonstrate this to him? Heck, to demonstrate it to YOURSELF???

[WithoutANet]

This is such a tough topic. There's very little he can do -- aside from quitting his job.

I guess it depends on how important the marriage is to him, and to what extent he feels you're serious about your boundaries.

He knows how I feel, and he says he understands and respects that.

I don't get the impression that he "respects" that one whit. I've read all of your past sitch, and I'm sorry to say, but I don't think he takes you seriously at all.

Starsky

Deep down, I know you are right. I'm too attached, to afraid of losing this M to rock the boat. I'm afraid that he will chose her/the job over me.

Okay, that is a pathetic realization. Time to stop worrying about losing his love, which I don't have, and to determine what *I* want and need from a relationship.

[Starsky309]

Now yer talkin'.

[WithoutANet]

Time to show myself (and him) that I am capable of taking care of myself.

I agree. What sort of "180" can you to do demonstrate this to him? Heck, to demonstrate it to YOURSELF???

I need to detach. I need to stop wallowing in the shadow of this relationship and stop demeaning myself through my own grovelling actions. Jeeze, it's been six months, and I don't really feel like I've made any headway. He doesn't respect me because I don't respect myself.

Detaching,dropping the rope, taking care of myself, and putting my needs ahead of this relationship. That would be a start.

[Greek]

Time to stop worrying about losing his love, which I don't have, and to determine what *I* want and need from a relationship.

...need from a relationship and FOR YOURSELF PERSONALLY.

You can do this.

Cheers ~
Greek

[WithoutANet]

What are the rules for ML? Should I put put some appetizers, or a sandwich tray? Or should I just keep my awesome new underclothes to myself?

[pinhead]

What are the rules for ML? Should I put put some appetizers, or a sandwich tray? Or should I just keep my awesome new underclothes to myself?

I need to detach. I need to stop wallowing in the shadow of this relationship and stop demeaning myself through my own grovelling actions. Jeeze, it's been six months, and I don't really feel like I've made any headway. He doesn't respect me because I don't respect myself.

Why are you leaping into ML with him? Or expecting to?

[WithoutANet]

Good point. We flirted with each other last night. I would say I'd do it for reassurance that I am still attractive, plus the added bonus of physical connectedness. Really it would lead to confusion and hurt feelings.

I'll keep it under wraps for a while... maybe forever.

[WithoutANet]

THAT ^^^^ would be a 180 for me.

[Starsky309]

THAT ^^^^ would be a 180 for me.

Looks like we have our answer to my post to you at 11:02 this morning then.

Starsky