How do you overcome the fear of losing everything you've worked on for the last nine years? I realized others have a lot more to lose than I do, but I just can't get past this fear. It's immobilizing. I love him, but I know this isn't healthy. My first step is to cut contact, but if I do that, he'll know something is up. Plus we are still sharing the dogs back and forth, maintaining a 'working' on it kind of relationship. He threatens if I take the dogs and all of my things that I will never talk to his family again. His family is my rock, I don't have a very good family life myself, I have no one to rely on there, except my sister, who is a single mom and has her hands full. I have a few great friends. The kicker is he kicked ME out of our house, I can't legally work in the U.S. so I came back to Canada to work. I can't go back because I will lose my job.
