I wasn't refering to you, Time, but was quoting what you said in order to a connection. Neither was I refering to these "guys" here, but just in general.
I know we women are very difficult to understand. I realize all women are not of the same make-up, so there is always that small number who are different. At the moment, I cannot think of one female that would not fit into the category that I described. Having said that......there may be dozens from this board that might tell me I'm wrong.
I have learned that we cannot operate out of emotions b/c they can be fickle, but isn't it wonderful to be able to respond to the great feelings we experience down through life?
At the chance of sounding like I am contradicting myself, I went through a time when I said almost the same thing to my H as this woman has said to hers. It comes from being in a mental or emotional unhealthy place where one can't cope like they usually would. It isn't really the best time to try to discuss M/R.
I may be wrong, but in this H's attempt at trying to help his W....I could see his WAW feeling as if he is "picking" away at her. I'm sure he isn't intending that, but being a former WAW....that is how I see it.
It is very hard on the LBH to know what to do....and he wants to do what works so badly. If the girl won't open up and answer his questions then it's either b/c she doesn't know how to communicate it verbally, or b/c of her mental state right now. My advice would be to know her LL, first of all, and then leave these deep questions alone until she has recovered from the state she's been in. She sounds like her mind won't cooperate and give her the words to say, and that puts more pressure on her.
If you know her LL then work through that.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
