Starsky, I am totally solution oriented. Ensured the MC is on the same page also. Interesting Analogy.
Jack 3,
our area of town is small. TKD has several disciplines. The one my WAW is studying has two studios within 40 miles. This is the ONLY one in the Gdamn area with out going to Alabama or Tallahassee...
Also I never had any intention to deny her TKD. She likes it, and our attends also.
Steve,
I was NOT invited to the promotion. This was 2 weeks after she dropped the bomb on me. I wanted to go she said no. There it was... It was not out of malice. I never said I didnt support TKD.. this was her thing and my sons.. like little league coaching and baseball for my son..
I am making progress here, she has texted me all morning about wanting to make it work and she states she will do anything to make the M work.
Folks I am not an a&@, I encouraged my wife to be the best she can be, always have. I just dont want her involved with her TKD instructor.. not too damn much to ask.
MC can address lot of the issues and I have a lot of heavy lifting to do also.. I got that.
PMA, that is funny!
M:42 W:39 S:9 M:20 T:25 D-bomb: 30 Sep 10 Wife changed her mind: 31 Oct 10 Working on it: 31 Oct 10
I understand your desire to allow her access to this interest of hers, but this promotes her interests to a level of almost equal if not greater importance than your marriage. It's that kind of attitude that caused most of us to end up here. We subordinate our Marriages to the needs of our children, to the demands of our jobs, and to all kinds of outside pressures. While it is important that we not let our marriages consume us to the detriment of all else, lest we become one dimensional caricatures of ourselves, our children, our jobs, and everything else suffers when our marriages collapse anyway.
Your marriage is what's at risk here and it must come first right now. TKD at this school is a direct threat to your marriage and neither one of you should give a rats ass about it right now while you are trying to repair your marriage. Put this into its proper perspective, but let your MC do the heavy lifting here. You don't need to keep hammering this home to her. Get your MC to help.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
She knows how I feel. I have put it out there. She has a class tonight. Will be interesting if she goes. She says he does NOT go on Thursdays. I could drive on over and check it out if she goes.
M:42 W:39 S:9 M:20 T:25 D-bomb: 30 Sep 10 Wife changed her mind: 31 Oct 10 Working on it: 31 Oct 10
Is it normal after all this damn up and down and emotional football, to have a moment or even a day when you are just to damn drained to give a crap?
It is normal to feel emotionally up and down within the confines of what you can control. You can't control the situation and are allowing it to get the best of you.
Perhaps you need a break away from all the drama, a chance to let your mind rest. Go for a walk, take in a movie...Something that gives your mind peace for a few hours.
(((Hugs)))
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
