Just received papers

[AtTheEnd?]

I was just served. Knew it was coming, but still a blow. Not devastating as we've been separated for a year now, but it still hurts. Thought I could have taken this a little easier.

[soleil]

That moment is very painful, At.

But someone once told me .. you survived it. It's over and you never have to go back to not ever being served again (if that makes sense).

Have you seen a L yet? You'd be surprised how strong you are.

[AtTheEnd?]

We talked, and we are going to try and work through it together. I'm not sure if this is the best idea, but she isn't fighting anything that I'm asking for, and I'm not fighting her on what she is asking for. It seems as though we can work this through fairly easily.

Receiving the papers and looking at the legal ramifications has me reconsidering this decision.

[soleil]

Well at the very least, if it's uncontested, it will be less expensive and less adversarial/nasty.

If you have any doubt as to the agreement or aren't satisfied, see an L.

What do you do in the meantime with GALing, etc?

[AtTheEnd?]

I've been very upbeat and happy for a while now (about 10 weeks). Not any explanation for it, but this week (knowing what was coming) has had an impact on me. It seems to be more up and down this week. I workout, hang out with friends, and enjoy time with my children. Can't complain too much, just the situation stinks.

I've just continued to be supportive, loving, and as responsible as possible through this entire process. It leaves her somewhat confused (her words), but she doesn't feel that she has an alternative. She is so stressed, that the only thing she can think of to alleviate her stress is to divorce me. I told that "I hope she finds the answers she is looking for", and I meant it. I have been sincere and caring in every conversation. I have read here what to do in this situation and that one, but I'm just going with what feels right, and with what I feel is good for me. I have not been a doormat. I'm just trying to behave with dignity.

[soleil]

I've just continued to be supportive, loving, and as responsible as possible through this entire process. It leaves her somewhat confused (her words

It always leaves them confused...when you agree and validate what they're saying. Crazy, huh? They want out but are perplexed as to why you won't cry for them and kneel at their feet, begging.

Keep up your GALs. I knwo getting served throws you off your game a bit but just keep your head up. Do something nice for yourself today.

[Reincarnated]

It is commendable if you can do the agreement cooperatively, but I would still have a lawyer do a final check of it before it is filed, just to protect yourself and bring up anything you might have not considered.

So sorry....it sounds like you have been doing the best you can.

[AtTheEnd?]

I absolutely did the best that I can. I was told to not look back and second guess anything. I could have done everything perfectly and it still may have ended up with the same result.

Thanks to everyone for their support. The number of things to take care of at this point is overwhelming.

[AtTheEnd?]

Everyone,

I'm back to my normal cheery self again. I'm sure there will be more moments to hit me until this is finalized, but everything seems to effect me less and less.

[soleil]

Good. I am glad to hear that. Do something fabulous this weekend